I hate my hair

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When I was in my 20s, I loved my hair. It was long and shiny, and the color was pretty. Now that I’m almost 50, I hate my hair. I spend a small fortune on hair care products. I buy Aveda by the boatload because I love the smell. I’ve used their products since I was a freshman in college. Shampure is by far my favorite scent. I also like rosemary mint. The new cherry almond line is gentle and smells okay, but not amazing.

One of the main problems I’ve experienced as I’ve gotten older is that my hair looks like straw. Black straw, if that’s a thing. Aveda’s smooth infusion helps moisturize my hair a bit. I’ve tried Bumble and Bumble and Living Proof, but what really works is Olaplex. For my hair, Olaplex No. 6, is a life saver. And it smells great. The only downside is that the bottle is rather small, and it is spendy.

Here’s a picture of me in London last summer getting my hair adjusted by my daughter, because no matter what I do, it always looks weird. With a lot of effort, I can get it to look okay at home, but when I travel, all bets are off. I’m heading to London again later this summer so I need to get my act together before then. If you have any great hair care products to recommend, please let me know! I love trying new products and I need all the help I can get.

Warmly,

Empty Nest Obsessed 🐾

Disclaimer: I love to try new products. I’m particularly interested in eco-friendly household cleaning products and I’m obsessed with anti-aging skin and hair care products. If I find something that works for me, I’ll let you know! Please note that I am not being paid (yet!) for any of my product recommendations. It that changes, I’ll certainly let you know.

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Are you rich?

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When I was in my 20s, I thought I was rich if I could go to the grocery store and buy everything I needed without worrying about whether I had enough money to cover it when I got to the checkout counter. If I didn’t have to do the math every time I put an item in my cart, I felt so rich.

When I was in my 30s, I felt rich if I could buy organic food at the grocery store, and not cringe. Six dollars for eggs? When the “regular eggs” are only two dollars? No problem.

A friend told me that she felt rich when she could afford to buy flowers for herself whenever she wanted, and she always had a tuberose or gardenia scenting her home. I love this idea, but somehow that still feels overindulgent to me. Or perhaps I really just want other people to buy them for me.

Now that I’m in my late 40s, I feel rich because I have a wonderful family, friends, and two sweet dogs. And also because I can get a massage whenever my muscles ache. Well, maybe not every time they ache, because that would be every day and I’m not that rich.

I’m in Beijing now, and Chinese medicinal massages are reasonably priced but they are NOT relaxing. In fact, it is sort of excruciating. You wear flannel pajamas that open in the back, and you are in a room with other people. No new age music, no aromatherapy. In fact, no oils at all. They put a sheet over you for privacy, so they don’t actually touch your skin. The massage therapists often chat with each other or watch TV while they are doing the massage, so it has a very different ambiance than in America. Even the smallest massage therapist seems to have the strength of an army. They knead you like a lump of dough. No mercy if you are flinching or if you are ticklish. They just keep kneading. The legs are the worst. However, the last 15 minutes seems to be reserved for the head. They give you the most amazing scalp massage. It is invigorating and administered with absolutely no concern for your hair-do. After the head massage, they offer to clean your ears with what looks like a long metal probe, but I think might be an ear candle. I haven’t been brave enough to try it yet. But I am interested. I’ll let you know if I try it.

A loud alarm goes off to let you know when your hour is up. When they are done, they give you some green tea and some fruit (so far I’ve been offered cherry tomatoes, honeydew, and watermelon). You sit there rejuvenated, with your wild hair, munching on tomatoes, feeling like a million bucks. In my book these days, that’s rich! I would love to know what makes you feel rich.

Warmly,

Empty Nest Obsessed 🐾

Disclaimer: I love to try new products. I’m particularly interested in eco-friendly household cleaning products and I’m obsessed with anti-aging skin and hair care products. If I find something that works for me, I’ll let you know! Please note that I am not being paid (yet!) for any of my product recommendations. It that changes, I’ll certainly let you know.

Comments Policy: Empty Nest Obsessed is a lifestyle blog meant to encourage, inspire, and support you as you navigate your own empty nest. In order to keep the tone positive, I reserve the right to moderate, edit, or delete any comments on Empty Nest Obsessed’s website or social media accounts that are negative, abusive, off-topic, or for any other reason.



Asian Don't Raisin

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Have your heard the saying “Asian don’t raisin”?  I have, and since I’m Eurasian and almost 50 (I’m between Sandra Oh and Lucy Liu in age, both of whom still look amazing), I’m terrified that I’ll be the first Asian on the planet to prematurely raisin. According to an article I read in AARP (gasp! sob!), one reason that Asians tend to look younger longer is that we have a wider bone structure than Caucasians, so our faces continue to look full and youthful as we age. 

As one HuffPost article says “Know what’s more effective than indulgent moisturizers and expensive serums? Being Asian.” I would feel reassured by this, except that I’m mixed race, so I live in fear that my Caucasian genes will prevail and I will crumple into petrified wood the moment I turn 50.

Because I can’t count on being Asian to stave off turning into driftwood/dried fruit, I have to rely on indulgent moisturizers and expensive serums. I am writing this post while lying in bed marinating in Egyptian Magic, which I buy in bulk from Costco. When I’m not basting myself in Egyptian Magic, I sleep smothered in Aquaphor, which I buy in 14 ounce tubs that I place strategically around my house, car, and office.  I rub some of the extra goop in my hair because it if it works and my face stays nice and plump and young-ish looking, I’d hate to have my hair give me away. Greasy? Yes. Who cares. If I manage to postpone turning into a raisin for a few more years, it will all be worth it!  Egyptian Magic absorbs better but is more expensive. Aquaphor is thicker and cheaper. I recommend using Egyptian Magic on your face and neck (and hair if you don’t mind waking up looking like the walking dead) and Aquaphor on your feet and lower legs - slather it on and sleep in some cheap cotton knee socks. I also like Weleda Skin Food. It smells nice and is a natural plant blend formula. However it isn’t sold everywhere so I don’t use it that regularly. Wish me luck, but if I look like a dried apple next time you see me, please don’t say anything.

Warmly,

Empty Nest Obsessed

Disclaimer: I love to try new products. I’m particularly interested in eco-friendly household cleaning products and I’m obsessed with anti-aging skin and hair care products. If I find something that works for me, I’ll let you know! Please note that I am not being paid (yet!) for any of my product recommendations. It that changes, I’ll certainly let you know.

Comments Policy: Empty Nest Obsessed is a lifestyle blog meant to encourage, inspire, and support you as you navigate your own empty nest. In order to keep the tone positive, I reserve the right to moderate, edit, or delete any comments on Empty Nest Obsessed’s website or social media accounts that are negative, abusive, off-topic, or for any other reason.